Abraham Lincoln, the 16th President of the United States 1809 – 1865, once said: “It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt”
A very wise man indeed who’s advice I think you should take to heart, if you know what I mean!

I have been reading the comments on the QMN site but, some of the things people feel the need to spout as pearls of stupidity are in my opinion so beyond the pale that I no longer wish to respond.

Many statements made have been so lacking in any measure of logic, intelligence or morality that answering would necessarily require me to first give the proponent of the comment a Master Class on “How to logically phrase an argument based on premises that support the conclusion”. That is just too much energy for me to expend on people who apparently need to return to the classroom.

I am sorry if that sounds arrogant but it is what I truly feel. Not to mention the abusive language some people feel necessary in order to make their point. That is NOT the level on which I choose to engage others. I’ve therefore decided to only react to issues I feel strongly about; Comments/ statements made that intrigue me and to people who’s thought process interest me, whether I agree with them or not!

On a serious note I feel that Gay men need to ask themselves the question: “Why do so many believe that sex with a presumably “straight” man is something to aspire to and infinitely more gratifying then sex with another Gay man. If the man is truly “straight” that in it self means that there is a very small chance that he’d want to be intimate with another man unless, as the expression suggest, they get paid handsomely for it! I assume that there will also be a substantial amount of hidden disgust within the “straight” man while he’s being intimate with his client. On a purely academic level one could argue that there is a case to be made for exploitation and abuse, because the affluent Gay man [client in this case] is using what he has and that which the straight man needs [and in his mind has no other way of gaining but to sell himself] to make him behave/ act in a way that is against his nature and his will and that is MONEY! In Europe we have accepted that it is morally wrong and under certain condition even criminal to have financially destitute women prostitute themselves, why should the same standards not apply to men or in this case: straight men?

I’m trying to make the argument that:
1. Gay men should value themselves enough not to salivate after so-called “straight men” in the hope that they might have a chance for an intimate encounter. If the man is truly “straight” it will NEVER happen and if, for some twisted reason, he does condescend to such an encounter it will not be because he’s attracted to you nor will it ever lead to anything more. He most likely will place many restrictions to what you may and may not do, there will be very little spontaneous response from him and when all is done I can’t believe that either party will be truly satisfied! So what is the point?
2. If these men are truly straight I think it is extremely sad that the pursuit of monetary gain makes them behave against their nature and choose employment that will, whether this is fair or not, label them for the rest of their lives and exclude them from certain professions even though they might have managed to get their lives back on track. The fact that they are adults does not alter the fact that they most likely are so screwed up that their decisions and judgment need to be questioned. If they indeed are troubled and therefore not in a position to make informed decisions, should we then still derive pleasure from watching a beautiful young man destroy himself before our eyes? Ever since I’ve started reading Erik Rhodes blog I find that seeing him “perform” makes me uncomfortable.

Conclusion:
A straight man will never willingly have sex with a Gay man. It is time Gay men get that through their thick skulls and stop this frenzy for every guy in the business who proclaims himself to be straight. Whom you sleep with does NOT determine your masculinity; all it does is indicate what your sexual preference is. A straight man will never do what these so-called “straight” guys in Gay porn get up to on a regular basis in front of a camera! If a man truly is straight but so psychologically damaged that he believes that selling himself for money is the only way for him to survive it is not something to titillate us but rather something that should worry all of us still in touch with our humanity and able to feel empathy and sympathy.

you are absolutely correct, I’m not qualified to make an assessment on bisexuality– however, your going to have to argue this with a broad scope of psychologists and sociologists who, examined the types of sexual behaviors discussed.
Basically, those studies concluded that you may be gay or straight but not bi.

Basically, you can perform a multitude of sexual activities with either male or female partners, but your desires will always pull you to the partners you really want… what I mean to say is, you can be a married man with a wife, but if your inclined to sleep with men, you cannot avoid it — eventually, you will be sleeping with them on the side; you cannot suppress your true desires for very long. Basically, a true homosexual or heterosexual would be satisfied with genders they are with and wouldn’t feel the need to partake in gay sex on the side.

Again, the behaviors would indicated it is more acceptable to be a ‘down low’ or gay-for-pay type of person then a ‘degenerate’ homosexual who is in love with men. That is what society says, this is what its porn reflects. Also, why many gays feel pressure to take the label of ‘bi’ because then maybe they feel they won’t be completely ostracized for being bisexual.